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Should You Not Be Respected If You Don't Dress Conservatively?

A Woman shared on Reddit an email she got from a man who claims to be part of the vintage lifestyle. She did not post any other emails to put the letter in context, but it seems he's expressing his views on the way modern women dress - Which for some reason leads to him talking about how everyone needs to be a virgin to have a happy relationship. And how women shouldn't be respected if they don't dress the way he thinks we should dress.

Model: The Vintage Vandel

You spend any time in this world and you learn something very quick. Men lose all respect for a woman when she walks around half naked catering to their egos and giving into their desires. Simply put men tend NOT to respect a damn thing they didn’t have to work hard to get. Additionally, a man refuses to grow up and be a mature responsible adult unless he’s forced to by his parents.


If you want proof of what I’m saying then open the door to your home and go for a walk. There number of people already practicing what the author is pushing by far surpasses the number of people that aren’t. And look at how downright dysfunctional and rotten today’s society is.


My wife was a virgin when I met her and so was I. I’ve never disrespected my wife and I’ve never lusted after another woman and I never will. I have nothing but respect for anyone that holds themselves to a high standard. But I had the benefit of having been raised by parents that were tough as nails. They set the demands high for their children and they punished us when we tried to be anything less than those standards. And religion had NOTHING to do with our moral compass.”

First, let me start with this line: "Men don't respect a damn thing they don't have to work hard for." So, you're telling me just because I'm wearing something YOU deem inappropriate, you have the right to disrespect me? And just because I'm wearing something you deem inappropriate you'd just assume it would be easy for you to seduce me?

Second: "Men lose all respect for a woman when she walks around half naked catering to their egos and giving into their desires." Ah, I see what this is all about now. When he says "catering to their egos" he means them being confident in themselves, and he can't deal with that. See, he's the type of man who doesn't like his significant other to dress up or wear makeup because he's afraid other men will find her attractive and she will eventually leave him. So he says thing like "Who are you trying to look good for?" or "You're catering to your ego!" just things to put you down and make you feel bad about dressing the way you want. When really, he's just lashing out at you for his lack of self-confidence.

Third: "My wife was a virgin when I met her and so was I. I’ve never disrespected my wife and I’ve never lusted after another woman and I never will." I highly doubt you've never disrespect your wife judging by the way you speak about other women. And fourth, so your solution to men disrespecting women is for everyone to be virgins before they meet and for women to cover up head to toe? What??

In conclusion, wear what makes you feel confident. It just repels insecure and toxic men.